My Online Presence {or lack thereof}

I happened upon this great blog post about blogging and like so many things in this life……..it got me to thinking.  Why don’t I just blog?! What is keeping me from it?! Is it a lack of “blogger self esteem”?  Why do I go like “gangbusters” in my cyberlife for a while and then withdraw?

LOTS of you lovelies happen by when I do blog and I absolutely adore your comments and getting to know you. I do find blogging rewarding and fun…..

I even have a brand spanking new and, may I add, BEAUTIFUL blog design for my backdrop.    

There is plenty I could talk about:

~I have a husband who offers more entertainment and comic relief than one family deserves. {no, really. You have no idea}
~I homeschool.
~I once weighed 300 lbs and am constantly struggling with my weight issues. I could probably focus my whole entire blog on this if I tried.
~I’m a would-be bodybuilder  and fitness buff. {ther is always a workout tip or story from the gym trenches waiting in the wings}
~I love to bake and play with recipes.
~I LOVE the Lord, my God and could talk about my relationship with Him until I’m blue in the face.
~Not to mention my Etsy shop and being part of this online handmade community..

I could go on, but I think you get the point. There is plenty I could talk about, but don’t. Blog posts ALWAYS bumtumble around my brain…….they just never seem to make it onto my blog.

I could use time as an excuse. While time IS often a rare commodity in my life, I don’t at all think it’s the ultimate cause of my periods of silence in the blogging/cyber world.  

{The epiphany}
I was talking to a friend yesterday. We were discussing our propensity toward shyness, and how very much work it is for us to be social.  Not at all that we don’t adore people.  We do.  We just aren’t natural talkers or socializers.  I have known this about myself some time.  I accept it ALL the time, and muster the energy to fight it & not be a complete introvert MOST of the time.   BUT, and it’s hard to believe I haven’t connected this sooner, I never really thought about the fact that it extended into the blogging/cyber world.  How could it not?

Sometimes I just don’t feel like talking.  I’d rather listen.  In the cyber world this translates to reading blogs, instead of writing my own….for months on end. Or stalking tweets instead of tweeting….for days on end.  Or supporting other’s FB posts instead of updating my own page.  As you more successful ladies can imagine, this makes online success spotty and difficult.

Here’s my question. Do you think that someone wired the way I am can make a go of building a business/brand online?  Do you find that parts of your “wiring” make it more difficult {or easier} to have an online presence?  Can I fight against my propensity to keep to myself in order to build a successful business?   I guess we’ll find out……… 😀

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Comments

  1. One of the reasons that I wanted an online business is so that I wouldn’t have to talk to people unless I wanted too 😉 Really though, a few years into it, and I find myself like you. Sometimes I just stalk and hide as I don’t have the energy or motivation to put it all out there everyday. As it turns out, even online shops have just as much ‘talking’ involved as in person.

    At least I don’t have to wear make-up if I don’t want to 😀

    Different things for for different people. I’m working on finding that balance as well. You will figure this out.

    Beautiful photos, Sara!!

  2. Wow, this is so much like me! Also quite shy, and find I have to push myself to engage, and always – like you say – responding to other’s posts, tweets and status updates instead of creating my own. I’d love to know as well how it is affecting my ability to build an online business!

  3. you’re such an inspirational presence online, Sara. Just thought you should know! Pure honesty like yours doesn’t come so easy to other blogs, myself included. I struggle with it so often. Sometimes I feel like I’m not normal because I don’t feel as happy as other blogs “seem”. I also fight with weight/health issues (hypothyroid, specifically). And just LIFE issues, like the struggles of being a mama sometimes. Btw, I LOVE the new look here, and those pics of you are absolutely radiant. I super promise to stop by more often if you keep bloggin’. 🙂 p.s. thanks for the song link this week!

  4. I think you can do it! Maybe if you made a specific time on a specific day every week to sit down and say “okay, I’m going to write a blog post now”. Not because you don’t have the time, but to maybe help you get over that fear.

    I always feel like what I post isn’t as good as the people that I admire, but I just have to remind myself that I need to be myself and aspire to be as great as those that I admire 🙂

  5. I love this blog post. Although I’m am an extrovert by nature, I’m an introverted extrovert. I’d rather read blogs then write my own as well. I have a tendency to forget to take pictures. To me pictures are important in a blog. So if I don’t take pictures, I don’t blog. I also just don’t have my husband take pictures of my very often because well, I’m lazy and like to be in PJs instead of getting dressed =P. No one wants pictures of me in my pjs on the blog. I’m glad I’m not the only one who is not so good at blogging. I think you’re beautiful! Thanks for sharing!

  6. I agree, I feel like I am being pushy and in people’s faces if I promote my work. I that if I tweet 2 of my items in 24 hours then that’s OK – but more than that & I’ll just be annoying. I don’t think that I am gods gift to crafting, but I’m OK, good enough to sell my stuff – but I’m still too worried about turnign people off by being pushy. End result, zero presence … an on-line unknown, either on Etsy, Twitter or my blog.

  7. OMG you have labelled me so perfectly (and not the bodybuilding, fitness buff part!). I can talk to anyone, at anytime, online or off. I’m pretty good with people and I’m told I am outgoing and a great sounding board but…I rarely start the conversation myself.

    When I was younger, I was the one who would find a table in the bar and guard it like a lioness guards her cubs. Servers would come and bring drinks and I would people watch and engage with those at the table. I’m still like that. Hmmm, maybe that’s why I am not some hugely successful woodturner, selling thousands of dollars every month.

    Like you, I can go weeks without blogging. That’s fine with me because I blog for me, first of all. I feel little pressure to force out new posts. They happen as they happen and user nothing wrong with it.

  8. Sara,
    I definitely know exactly where you’re coming from! I’m an introvert/extrovert. I’m very shy and reserved with people I don’t know very well but as time goes by while I get to know people better I can be myself around them. I’m the type of person that prefers a handful of close friends to a boatload, social events where I know not one person drain me of energy, and my head goes blank when I’m bombarded with questions. I struggle a little bit with actually publishing posts as well, although I find that I’m not AS shy on social media sites, it’s still there just not as strong. I think you’re doing just fine! I had no idea that you were introverted and I like your products alot. And just so you know, I’d love to read about all the topics you mentioned above!! I don’t know about most people but I do most of my blog reading through twitter, so when you update be sure to tweet about it! 🙂 Thanks for sharing, now I don’t feel so alone. 🙂

  9. Blogging is definitely a challenge, but really worth it. I actually started 3 blogs before this one, and because I just didn’t really understand it, just gave up on them. But I am finding truly wonderful connections with Christian women, and that alone is a huge motivator! Just wanted to say hello and encourage you. Lovely page!

    Kristina Gulino
    Twitter: @KristinaMGulino
    something2writeabout.wordpress.com

  10. Yes, I do think you can!! Just having written what you did in this post. If the Lord leads you, who can stop you?

  11. I love the word bumtumble.

    I think you should blog if the Lord is leading you and if you want to. It takes a lot of time, but worth it if it’s in HIS plan for you.

    You are so lovely.

  12. Have you been reading my mind lately, because you just pegged me perfectly. I probably say everyday ” I should blog about that.” and the next day find myself saying “But who will care?” My constant concern is that I’m not nearly as good, clever, funny, or visually appealing as I should be. So wish I could get past that, but comforting to know I’m not alone.

  13. This was such a fascinating post to read Sara! In a lot of ways, I can relate to this because I’m definitely the introverted type. Even some of my good friends jokingly complain that I’m such a mystery sometimes. Funny enough, I think that’s why I turned to blogging in the first place though. Somehow, someway, I find it easier to express myself to complete strangers than I do to some of my good real-life friends! Come to think of it, I’m not sure whether that is a good or bad thing….

    But anyways, I don’t think that you must have a blog to be successful. Even though I’m a new reader, from what I can tell you have a very strong online presence/lots of people who want to read what you have to say. I think you should just keep blogging when you do feel like it, whether it be 1/week or 1/month, and the readers will come back regardless of how often you post because you write such lovely/personal posts as this. 🙂

  14. just stumbled upon your blog… love your shop and know i find out how much i love your blog as well and your honesty and candor and love for the Lord. It’s interesting the blog/shop thing b/c my blog (I think) is WAY more successful that my shop and I could do more for my shop but when I’m home from the day job, doing shop stuff is so much more tiring than blog stuff… you know? <3

  15. stop reading my mind. I know, once again, what you are saying. I believe (as S/WAH-HS-M) we are finding our way through this. one day (and sometimes moment) at a time.

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